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The life of Aishah is proof that a
woman can be far more learned than men and
that she can be the teacher of scholars and
experts. Her life is also proof that a woman
can exert influence over men and women and
provide them with inspiration and
leadership. Her life is also proof that the
same woman can be totally feminine and be a
source of pleasure, joy and comfort to her
husband.
She did not graduate from any university
there were no universities as such in
her day. But still her utterances are
studied in faculties of literature, her
legal pronouncements are studied in
colleges of law and her life and works
are studied and researched by students
and teachers of Muslim history as they
have been for over a thousand years.
The bulk of her vast treasure of
knowledge was obtained while she was
still quite young. In her early
childhood she was brought up by her
father who was greatly liked and
respected for he was a man of wide
knowledge, gentle manners and an
agreeable presence. Moreover he was the
closest friend of the noble Prophet who
was a frequent visitor to their home
since the very early days of his
mission.
In her youth, already known for her
striking beauty and her formidable
memory, she came under the loving care
and attention of the Prophet [sallallaahu
alayhi wasallam] himself. As his wife
and close companion, she acquired from
him knowledge and insight such as no
woman has ever acquired.
Aishah became the Prophet's wife in
Makkah when she was most likely in the
tenth year of her life but her wedding
did not take place until the second year
after the Hijrah when she was about
fourteen or fifteen years old. Before
and after her wedding she maintained a
natural jollity and innocence and did
not seem at all overawed by the thought
of being wedded to him who was the
Messenger of God whom all his
companions, including her own mother and
father, treated with such love and
reverence as they gave to no one else.
About her wedding, she related that
shortly before she was to leave her
parent's house, she slipped out into the
courtyard to play with a passing friend:
"I was
playing on a see-saw and my long
streaming hair was dishevelled,"
she said.
"They came and
took me from my play and made me ready."
They dressed her in a wedding-dress made
from fine red-striped cloth from Bahrain
and then her mother took her to the
newly-built house where some women of
the Ansar were waiting outside the door.
They greeted her with the words "For
good and for happiness may all be well!"
Then, in the presence of the smiling
Prophet, a bowl of milk was brought. The
Prophet drank from it himself and
offered it to Aishah. She shyly declined
it but when he insisted she did so and
then offered the bowl to her sister Asma
who was sitting beside her. Others also
drank of it and that was as much as
there was of the simple and solemn
occasion of their wedding. There was no
wedding feast.
Marriage to the
Prophet did not change her playful ways.
Her young friends came regularly to
visit her in her own apartment.
"I would be playing with my dolls," she
said, "with the girls who were my
friends, and the Prophet would come in
and they would slip out of the house and
he would go out after them and bring
them back, for he was pleased for my
sake to have them there." Sometimes he
would say "Stay where you are" before
they had time to leave, and would also
join in their games. Aishah said: "One
day, the Prophet came in when I was
playing with the dolls and he said: 'O
Aishah, whatever game is this?' 'It is
Solomon's horses,' I said and he
laughed." Sometimes as he came in he
would screen himself with his cloak so
as not to disturb Aishah and her
friends.
Aishah's early life in Madinah also had
its more serious and anxious times. Once
her father and two companions who were
staying with him fell ill with a
dangerous fever which was common in
Madinah at certain seasons. One morning
Aishah went to visit him and was
dismayed to find the three men lying
completely weak and exhausted. She asked
her father how he was and he answered
her in verse but she did not understand
what he was saying. The two others also
answered her with lines of poetry which
seemed to her to be nothing but
unintelligible babbling. She was deeply
troubled and went home to the Prophet
saying:
"They are raving, out of their minds,
through the heat of the fever." The
Prophet asked what they had said and was
somewhat reassured when she repeated
almost word for word the lines they had
uttered and which made sense although
she did not fully understand them then.
This was a demonstration of the great
retentive power of her memory which as
the years went by were to preserve so
many of the priceless sayings of the
Prophet.
Of the Prophet's wives in Madinah, it
was clear that it was Aishah that he
loved most. From time to time, one or
the other of his companions would ask:
"O Messenger of God, whom do you love
most in the world?" He did not always
give the same answer to this question
for he felt great love for many for his
daughters and their children, for Abu
Bakr, for Ali, for Zayd and his son
Usamah. But of his wives the only one he
named in this connection was Aishah. She
too loved him greatly in return and
often would seek reassurance from him
that he loved her.
Once she asked him: "How is your love
for me?"
"Like the rope's knot," he replied
meaning that it was strong and secure.
And time after time thereafter, she
would ask him: "How is the knot?" and he
would reply: "Ala haaliha in the same
condition."
As she loved the Prophet so was her love
a jealous love and she could not bear
the thought that the Prophet's
attentions should be given to others
more than seemed enough to her. She
asked him:
"O Messenger of God, tell me of
yourself. If you were between the two
slopes of a valley, one of which had not
been grazed whereas the other had been
grazed, on which would you pasture your
flocks?"
"On that which had not been grazed,"
replied the Prophet.
"Even so," she said, "and I am not as
any other of your wives. "Everyone of
them had a husband before you, except
myself." The Prophet smiled and said
nothing.
Of her jealousy, Aishah would say in
later years:
"I was not, jealous of any other wife of
the Prophet as I was jealous of Khadijah,
because of his constant mentioning of
her and because God had commanded him to
give her good tidings of a mansion in
Paradise of precious stones. And
whenever he sacrificed a sheep he would
send a fair portion of it to those who
had been her intimate friends. Many a
time I said to him: "It is as if there
had never been any other woman in the
world except Khadijah."
Once, when Aishah complained and asked
why he spoke so highly of "an old
Quraysh woman", the Prophet was hurt and
said: "She was the wife who believed in
me when others rejected me. When people
gave me the lie, she affirmed my
truthfulness. When I stood forsaken, she
spent her wealth to lighten the burden
of my sorrow.."
Despite her feelings of jealousy which
nonetheless were not of a destructive
kind, Aishah was really a generous soul
and a patient one. She bore with the
rest of the Prophet's household poverty
and hunger which often lasted for long
periods. For days on end no fire would
be lit in the sparsely furnished house
of the Prophet for cooking or baking
bread and they would live merely on
dates and water. Poverty did not cause
her distress or humiliation;
self-sufficiency when it did come did
not corrupt her style of life.
Once the Prophet stayed away from his
wives for a month because they had
distressed him by asking of him that
which he did not have. This was after
the Khaybar expedition when an increase
of riches whetted the appetite for
presents. Returning from his
self-imposed retreat, he went first to
Aishah's apartment. She was delighted to
see him but he said he had received
Revelation which required him to put two
options before her. He then recited the
verses:
"O Prophet! Say to your wives: If you
desire the life of this world and its
adornments, then come and I will bestow
its goods upon you, and I will release
you with a fair release. But if you
desire God and His Messenger and the
abode of the Hereafter, then verily God
has laid in store for you an immense
reward for such as you who do good."
Aishah's reply was:
"Indeed I desire God and His Messenger
and the abode of the Hereafter," and her
response was followed by all the others.
She stuck to her choice both during the
lifetime of the Prophet and afterwards.
Later when the Muslims were favored with
enormous riches, she was given a gift of
one hundred thousand dirhams. She was
fasting when she received the money and
she distributed the entire amount to the
poor and the needy even though she had
no provisions in her house. Shortly
after, a maidservant said to her:
"Could you buy meat for a dirham with
which to break your fast?"
"If I had remembered, I would have done
so," she said. The Prophet's affection
for Aishah remained to the last. During
his final illness, it was to Aishah's
apartment that he went at the suggestion
of his wives. For much of the time he
lay there on a couch with his head
resting on her breast or on her lap. She
it was who took a toothstick from her
brother, chewed upon it to soften it and
gave it to the Prophet. Despite his
weakness, he rubbed his teeth with it
vigorously. Not long afterwards, he lost
consciousness and Aishah thought it was
the onset of death, but after an hour he
opened his eyes.
Aishah it is who has preserved for us
these dying moments of the most honoured
of God's creation, His beloved Messenger
may He shower His choicest blessings on
him.
When he opened his eyes again, Aishah
remembered Iris having said to her: "No
Prophet is taken by death until he has
been shown his place in Paradise and
then offered the choice, to live or
die."
"He will not now choose us," she said to
herself. Then she heard him murmur:
"With the supreme communion in Paradise,
with those upon whom God has showered
His favor, the Prophets, the martyrs and
the righteous..." Again she heard him
murmur: "O Lord, with the supreme
communion," and these were the last
words she heard him speak. Gradually his
head grew heavier upon her breast, until
others in the room began to lament, and
Aishah laid his head on a pillow and
joined them in lamentation.
In the floor of Aishah's room near the
couch where he was lying, a grave was
dug in which was buried the Seal of the
Prophets amid much bewilderment and
great sorrow.
Aishah lived on almost fifty years after
the passing away of the Prophet. She had
been his wife for a decade. Much of this
time was spent in learning and acquiring
knowledge of the two most important
sources of God's guidance, the Quran and
the Sunnah of His Prophet. Aishah was
one of three wives (the other two being
Hafsah and Umm Salamah) who memorized
the Revelation. Like Hafsah, she had her
own script of the Quran written after
the Prophet had died.
So far as the Ahadith or sayings of the
Prophet is concerned, Aishah is one of
four persons (the others being Abu
Hurayrah, Abdullah ibn Umar, and Anas
ibn Malik) who transmitted more than two
thousand sayings. Many of these pertain
to some of the most intimate aspects of
personal behavior which only someone in
Aishah's position could have learnt.
What is most important is that her
knowledge of hadith was passed on in
written form by at least three persons
including her nephew Urwah who became
one of the greatest scholars among the
generation after the Companions.
Many of the learned companions of the
Prophet and their followers benefitted
from Aishah's knowledge. Abu Musa al-Ashari
once said: "If we companions of the
Messenger of God had any difficulty on a
matter, we asked Aishah about it."
Her nephew Urwah asserts that she was
proficient not only in fiqh but also in
medicine (tibb) and poetry. Many of the
senior companions of the Prophet came to
her to ask for advice concerning
questions of inheritance which required
a highly skilled mathematical mind.
Scholars regard her as one of the
earliest fuqaha of Islam along with
persons like Umar ibn al-Khattab, Ali
and Abdullah ibn Abbas. The Prophet
referring to her extensive knowledge of
Islam is reported to have said: "Learn a
portion of your religion (din) from this
red colored lady." "Humayra" meaning
"Red-coloured" was an epithet given to
Aishah by the Prophet.
Aishah not only possessed great
knowledge but took an active part in
education and social reform. As a
teacher she had a clear and persuasive
manner of speech and her power of
oratory has been described in
superlative terms by al-Ahnaf who said:
"I have heard speeches of Abu Bakr and
Umar, Uthman and Ali and the Khulafa up
to this day, but I have not heard speech
more persuasive and more beautiful from
the mouth of any person than from the
mouth of Aishah."
Men and women came from far and wide to
benefit from her knowledge. The number
of women is said to have been greater
than that of men. Besides answering
enquiries, she took boys and girls, some
of them orphans, into her custody and
trained them under her care and
guidance. This was in addition to her
relatives who received instruction from
her. Her house thus became a school and
an academy.
Some of her students were outstanding.
We have already mentioned her nephew
Urwah as a distinguished reporter of
hadith. Among her women pupils is the
name of Umrah bint Abdur Rahman. She is
regarded by scholars as one of the
trustworthy narrators of hadith and is
said to have acted as Aishah's secretary
receiving and replying to letters
addressed to her. The example of Aishah
in promoting education and in particular
the education of Muslim women in the
laws and teachings of Islam is one which
needs to be followed.
After Khadijah al-Kubra (the Great) and
Fatimah az-Zahra (the Resplendent),
Aishah as-Siddiqah (the one who affirms
the Truth) is regarded as the best woman
in Islam. Because of the strength of her
personality, she was a leader in every
field in knowledge, in society, in
politics and in war. She often regretted
her involvement in war but lived long
enough to regain position as the most
respected woman of her time. She died in
the year 58 AH in the month of Ramadan
and as she instructed, was buried in the
Jannat al-Baqi in the City of Light,
beside other companions of the Prophet.
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