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Pick Your Teeth! |
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One of the greatest sins and yet
it's something we do day after
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Sometimes we don't even realise it. You're just chatting away with your friends
and you begin to talk about somebody else. Our whole lives are based around
'Home and Away' and 'Neighbours', soaps based on lying, backbiting etc. But look
at what the Prophet (SAWS) said about it:
The Prophet Salalahu Alayhi Wasallam was sitting with his companions
one day and one of them was speaking badly about someone who wasn't there. As
the man got up to leave the Prophet (SAWS) said to him: "Pick
Your Teeth!" "But I haven't eaten anything,"
the man protested. "No," the
Prophet (SAWS) said
"YOU HAVE EATEN THE FLESH OF YOUR DEAD BROTHER".
As Allah tells us in the Quran:"Would
any of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? No, you would hate it."
(Al-Qur'an 49:12)
But What If It's True?!
The Prophet (SAWS) told us:"Backbiting
is to say something about someone they wouldn't like said about them....If what
bad you said about them is true, then you have backbited and if it is false then
you have slandered them."(MUSLIM)
If you're still not convinced of how big a sin backbiting really is,
then look at the punishment Allah has in store for the backbiters.
The Prophet (SAWS) described:
"On the night of me'raaj I passed by some people
who had metal hooks in their hands and were clawing at their faces and their
necks with them. I asked Gabriel 'Who were these people?' He said 'These are the
people who eat the flesh of human beings and disgrace them' (Abu
Dawud).
This is how big a sin backbiting is looked upon and yet we continue to
backbite without a second thought. Next time you lie, talk about
somebody,remember Allah (swt) and the Prophet (SAWS) and
put them in front of you before you speak.
Just
having a Laugh!
Maybe we think it's all right to take the mick out of someone so long
as we say it to their face. We'll make fun of the way someone talks, walks,or
how they look. Allah warns us against such behaviour:
"O you who believe. Let not some men laugh at others, it
may be the
that they are better than you. Nor let some women laugh at others it may be that
they are better than you. Nor abuse each other, nor be sarcastic to eachother by
using offensive nicknames..."(Al-Qur'an 49:11)
Don't forget that Allah made us the way we are, so how can you even
think of making fun of his creation?
Cool to Swear?
Listen to yourself and to your friends speaking one day - nearly every
sentence will have a swear word in it, thinking it's cool and macho to
swear, copying the idols of TV and the cinema. Is it really 'cool' to
swear?
The Hellfire is far from being cool. People will wish they were cool
then rather than being cool in this world. Remember! That every time you speak,
an angel writes down what you say, and that one day you will have to answer for
every single word you ever uttered. So if you swear at someone then it's written
down as a sin against you. You're only harming yourself.
The Prophet (SAWS) said that:"Abusing
a Muslim is a sin and fighting with him is disbelief."(MUSLIM).
'But sometimes you just have to swear'!
We've all been there - you're just so angry with somebody and the only way you
can express yourself, is to swear at them. The solution? ...
Don't get angry in the first place.
A man came to the Prophet (SAWS) one day and said
"Advise me". The prophet (SAWS) said
"Don't become angry. Don't become angry. Don't become
angry".... "When one of you gets angry while he is standing up, he should sit
down. Then anger will leave him, and if not then he should lie down"
(Ahmad)
So let us follow this beautiful advice of the Prophet Sallalahu Alayhi
Wasallam and remember that anger is from Shaytaan. If someone angers
you or swears at you, then don't harm yourself by doing the same but respond in
a better way as Allah says in the Qur'an:
"Repel evil with what is better. Then he who was your
worst enemy will
become your best friend." (Al-Qur'an 41:33)
"It wasn't me. Honest."
How often do we say such a phrase or say that "I was only joking".
We
treat lies as being trivial.
However we are told that:"Allah's messenger did not hate anything more
than lying"(Ahmed).
The Prophet (SAWS) was once asked "Can a Muslim be a
coward?" He (SAWS) replied
"Yes." and then asked
"Can a Muslim be a miser?" and the reply was
"Yes." The Prophet (SAWS) was then asked "Can a Muslim be a liar?" The Prophet
(SAWS) replied "NO! A Muslim
can never be a liar".Furthermore, he said "Truth
leads to virtue and virtue leads to paradise...Lying leads to wickedness and
wickedness leads to the hellfire." (Bukhari).
As we know that one lie leads to another ten lies which lead to bad
actions.
Remember you can lie and think that you have got away with it but on
the day of Judgement your hands, tongue and feet will bear testimony against you
and tell the truth.
But it's only words!
One day one of the companions asked the Prophet Sallalahu Alayhi
Wasallam "O Messenger of Allah. Will we be called to account for what we
say?" He replied
"May you be lost to your mother - people will be thrown, faces down into
the hellfire, only on account to what their tongues said."
(Tirmidhi).
Indeed the tongue controls the rest of your body. A well-controlled
tongue will keep us within Islam but a loose tongue will destroy us. The Prophet
(SAWS) said:
"When a person gets up in the morning, all the
parts of his body make a plea to his tongue saying; 'Fear Allah regarding us,
because we follow you. If you are right then we shall also be right , and if you
are wrong then we shall also be wrong." (Tirmidhi)
Instead of swearing, lying and engaging in useless talk we can use our
tongues in better ways and what better than telling people about Islam.
Allah says:
"Who is better in speech than one who calls (men) to Allah
and works
righteousness and says I am one of those who bow down in Islam"
(41:33)
Your tongue can save you as well!.Indeed if you control your tongue and speak
good then paradise can be yours. The Prophet (SAWS) said:"Whoever
can guarantee me two things I can guarantee them Paradise." The
companions asked "What, O Messenger of Allah?" He replied
"What is between his jaws (his tongue) and his
legs (private parts)."(Bukhari)
"I've lied and backbited, sworn and made fun of others. I must be doomed I must
be going to hell!"
NO!Allah (swt) tells us in the Quran:
"O my servants who have wronged themselves, never despair
of the mercy of Allah for truly he forgives all sins. He is the Forgiving, the
Merciful."(39:53)
So if you really repent and turn back to Allah and promise not to
commit the sin again then truly Allah's promise is true and He will forgive you.
If you've backbitten someone - go and tell the person whom you backbited and
apologise sincerely and ask them to forgive you. But if you think that the
situation will get worse then turn back to Allah sincerely begging for his
forgiveness then to make up for what you said, go around and talk good of him.
The Best Example
As we know that the best person to have ever lived is the Prophet
Muhammad (SAWS) and he is the best of example for mankind. If
we follow him we can never go wrong. Ayesha RadiAllahu Ta'ala Anha the Prophet's
wife described the Prophet's conduct as follows:"He was neither a
obscene talker nor a user of bad words. He did not shout nor did he repay evil
with evil. He used to forgive people and overlook their sins." (Tirmidhi)
Final Advice: A beautiful saying of the Prophet Sallalahu Alayhi
Wasallam that will ensure the protection of our tongue.
The Messenger of Allah (SAWS) said:
"Whoever believes in Allah and the Last day, LET HIM EITHER SPEAK GOOD
OR KEEP SILENT"
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